The Rhythm of Love

“Judge not, and you will not be judged; condemn not, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven." -Luke 6:37 Judgement...why is it so ordinary and such a big part of our life? The way people look at you, view you, talk about you leads to many dissolutions and misconceptions. Not only does it hurt, it doesn't help. For some time, judgment has been such a thorn for me, the question of how people perceive you is something we humans dwell on and let affect us. In a place where everyone knows everyone, and some kind of information about them, naturally giving some sort of verdict on who you think they are will happen. But who are we to judge each other? Who are we to base facts, data or news we have heard from fellow sinners to shape our views of other people and treat them as such. In a world where you can find anything on anyone via the internet, judgement is dangerous, like the Lord says, judgement is unacceptable and until you get to know someone for who t...

Well....first off I'd like to apologize. I am so sorry for going this long without a blog, it is not because I have nothing to write about, simply because as you all know, life gets in the way. So there is no better time to start up again but on a cozy cold November night while sipping hot black tea from Starbucks. Intention, what exactly does that mean? In terms of relationships, it means being deliberate about our actions towards our loved ones. It can become so easy to lose focus and slack off, but being purposeful with our actions, words and feelings is key to any relationship. Girls....this is one area of a man that is so key to who they are, are they intent on being thoughtful? Intent on being Selfless? Intent on pursuing you? Questions like these are ones we need to ask ourselves when entering or beginning a relationship. Relationships take constant work, they are not easy but should never be a constant struggle nor a stressful part of your life. Take time to really listen t...

Well, Im sure a lot of you have been watching the infamous Bachelorette this summer, with all its blunders, confusion, fake romance and mistakes (Ashley...). Between eating Olive Garden and sitting in my extremly cold basement watching this  romantically fabricated reality show I began to wonder, is there an appropriate scene for romance? Every passionate scene on this show isn't at home in a quaint kitchen making tea, nor taking a walk through a park. It is on the beaches of Australia or in the heart of Hawaii. Really who wouldn't fall in love in such amazing and exotic places? Thus my question arose, as women we want to me swept off our feet, given attention and affection...and it should not matter where we meet or how, but the connection between the two despite the outward circumstances? That intimate bond thats left after years of physical changes and adapting to life in different ways is the real mark of a lasting relationship. This show is so entertaining and does give po...

Its been a while, and I have to admit that is not on purpose...life gets crazy and I think we can all agree. But in this time, I have had time to reflect on what I want to write about, and here it goes. The title is is so because I was recently listening to a song by Owl City called "Vanilla Twilight", it talks about missing someone and wanting them close at hand. Relationship wise it is normal to miss someone when they leave, and many couples lean on the saying  "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" for comfort in those times spent apart. My question is, fonder physically or fonder emotionally? It is easy to miss them physically, such a tangible thing is simple and effortless almost to miss...but as we go about our days alone without our significant other, its one thing to miss holding their hand at the grocery store or having a date night out on the town. Its another thing, and to me the more important thing to miss is the emotional, spiritual and social attachmen...

Often it has been said and even unsaid that when beginning a relationship, a mental calendar should be in place. Meaning that every new relationship should follow a certain syllabus so to speak, at one month they will still "like" each other and get to know each other, then around three months a couple should be best friends and become exclusive , and by six months you are fully in love and serious, and then  the pressure to start to prepare for marriage from then on out..... Why are we programmed to try to follow this mapped out realtionship guide and worry if ours doesn't exactly fit within the guidlines of our societys relational expectations? Who decided we must plan out exactly what we will feel, think and do with our partner right from the get go?  This projection of our lives comes from a place of confusion and worry, if we dont have something set as an example how on earth are we to get it right in relationships? What is too much or too little too late? What much ...

Im sitting in my family room, watching The Desperate Housewives of New York,  first wondering why this show exists but secondly, the idea of a trophy wife came to mind. Is it true as a women, in this society we must obtain a certain physical look and status to be exceptable to a man or in order to keep him? As a women of christ what is our role as a wife physically speaking? It isnt like I am ANY WHERE near ready to get married but this is a blog..so I'm blogging :) As society suggests, is it our duty to keep ourselves looking young by any surgical or natural way possible to conserve our self esteem and the love of our husband? And the answer is... NO- Want to know why? Corinthians 4:16-18 says, "  For this reason we never become discouraged. Even though our physical being is gradually decaying, yet our spiritual being is renewed day after day.  And this small and temporary trouble we suffer will bring us a tremendous and eternal glory, much greater than the trouble....

High school brought love and loss in many different ways for almost about everyone. What ever your story  this is for every girl, in love, in loss, or even in waiting. Me? I've had few but very important relationships, ranging from a 1 month relationship  to where I am now..having just celebrated our 10 month. As I sat today I started remembering my first relationship with a baseball player my sophmore year in high school, and started thinking about my aunt and uncle and my mothers parents..both couples were high school sweethearts, what if you start dating someone in high school seriouslly? Is it true those relationships arent "real" relationships? Its always been an unspoken idea that high school relationships are not true, that those couples are forever stuck in "puppy love" and will, with out a doubt break up some time before college. Personally I have no idea, though my one relationship was a complete and utter failure a week in, from a distance I have watc...